Tuesday, October 4, 2022

Our First Year – Newlyweds No More!

When’s the last time you went to the airport?

Regardless of the last time you were there, no doubt you can imagine all the people coming and going. If you’ve ever watched those waiting for a passenger, they wait longingly and look in and through the crowd for a shape they recognize.

Maybe it’s a best friend.
Maybe it’s a child.
Maybe it’s a loved one.

You know what I’ve never seen? I’ve never seen someone waiting run up and hug the wrong person. Every person waiting knows exactly what their person looks like from afar. The shape of their body, the rhythm of their walk, how they wear their clothes. And people waiting never mistake a stranger for their loved one.  And I knew almost right away that Louis was the man for me.

When we had just met, I told people that I had known enough frogs to know what a prince looks like.  But I have found in the last year, our first year of marriage, that he is so much more than a prince.  He’s a shepherd — caring for my heart and lovingly creating a place where I can share my heart.  He’s a leader — leading our family in making important decisions.  He’s a real person — sometimes making mistakes, but gets back up and keeps moving forward.  He’s the man I love.

Some of you know the love story that became Mr. and Mrs. Trundy.  To keep it short and sweet, I got a friend request from a man. I saw that we had several friends in common that I like and respect, so I said yes. But that was not the last time I said yes. After our first hours-long phone call, I said yes to a date, and eventually, after hours of conversation and days of consideration, I said yes, I will.

A year later, I still don’t expect people to understand what it’s like to meet someone and know right away that he is the one. I don’t think it happens often.  But I think it’s also like greeting someone at the airport — I kept looking past every other guy that was not the one. But when I saw Louis, I knew he was the one. Not only his walk, but his walk with God. Not only his looks, but how he looks after my heart. We are pretty much the same person with a lot of the same insecurities and weaknesses, but that helps us have grace for each other because we understand where we’re coming from.

I love to lay in bed and read him dad jokes; I purposely find things to do in the living room when he plays Madden 20 just because I want to be near him.  He makes dinner for us when he knows I’ve had a tough day or if it’s a special occasion. He listens so carefully to me and knows what I’d like to have and gives me thoughtful gifts, which is definitely a love language that makes me feel loved. But we also have a lot of the same strengths, and we are still determined to seek God in our marriage and make people look at our marriage and want to get married and bask in this thing God designed called marriage.

So year 1 is up.  We have both learned a lot along the way, and we’re both so grateful to be able to spend so much time together in our first year of marriage.  I’m sure there will still be some course correction along the way. I just know that we wake up each day with the decision to love each other.  Some days are easier, some days are harder, but every day is a wonderful opportunity to be together.

Terri Brown
Beautiful, creative, organized, people-lover – I am two or three of those things every day. I am also the mother of three adult children I am very proud of, and would love to have a Corgi one day. I love to help people by bringing order to chaos, show hospitality through food and planning events, and I’m learning calligraphy and hand lettering. Other favorites include cheesy cheese pizza, re-purposing home décor, using the crevice tool on my vacuum cleaner, and talking to people wherever I go.